The first date is a prelude to the aforementioned choreography, and it can affect not only the willingness of both parties to move on to the next story, but also the initial expectations of the relationship. Psychological research has shown that the impression of turning to the other person at the first meeting often forms a “primacy effect” in the other person’s decision, and continues to affect subsequent interactions. This article will focus on location choice, communication skills, communication skills and action attitude four dimensions, provide practical advice to help you easily grasp the early encounter.
1. Choose the right location — the cornerstone of comfort
The choice of location should take into account the needs of both parties’ interests and interaction, avoid overly tense environment to interfere with the dialogue, and ensure that the scene can naturally trigger the spark of dialogue.
– ** Cafe or light food restaurant ** : Suitable for deep communication, relaxed attention can relieve tension, but avoid the stress of rush hour.
– ** Art exhibition or city gathering ** : If the other party likes cultural or creative activities, such a scene can trigger a common topic through the exhibits, and it is likely to affect people and distract them.
– ** Outdoor parks or walking trails ** : Natural, open Spaces are suitable for character activities and dates where body language is tense while walking, but check the weather in advance.
Before asking for a date, find out what the other person likes through social media or mutual friends, and give them a “one or two” choice (such as “I heard that the new plant cafe has a nice environment, would you like to walk by the lake?”). ).) To show respect, but at the same time retain a sense of mystery.
2: Graceful posture, full of confidence – silent expression of visual impression
Dress to find a balance between “appropriate for the occasion” and “performance personality”, do not be too deliberate. –
** Men ** : Casual dating, choose a high-precision skirt to match the body and formal occasions, with a simple suit and small white shoes to give vitality. Avoid logos or excessive clothing. –
** Women ** : Women or high-waisted pants are a safe choice, with scarves, earrings and other details, both exercise etiquette and not too much publicity.
** Core Rule ** : Try on clothes in advance to check that they fit and are neat. Clean clothes and authentic hair are far more important than expensive clothes. Keep in mind that a confident posture (such as a straight back and a natural smile) will diminish the effect of any outfit.
3: Conversation topics and techniques – Create emotional connections from the conversation
The conversation on the first date should be like a tango, moving back and forth and keeping the rhythm.
– ** Topic List ** :
Open-ended question: “What new and interesting thing have you tried recently?”
Share experiences: “If you had a blank day, what would your ideal day be like?”
– Humor: “When I was a kid, I thought we were going to hold roses and recite poems like in the movies, but now I do.”
** ** : Salary, exes, controversial social issues are awkward and can be subtly deflected (e.g. “This is a serious question, why don’t you tell me about your last trip?” ).
** Rule of Clarification ** : Use “repetition + empathy” for emphasis (e.g. “You say you like to observe local life while traveling alone, this perspective is really special!” When the person is speaking, lean forward slightly and nod your head every 20 seconds to show the most sincerity.
4: Yoga and confidence – beyond the core charm of technique
– ** Note the “phenotypic personality
** : Not necessarily forced to show off achievements or disguise interests, frankly “I don’t know much about wine, but I would like to hear your introduction” is.
– ** Small movements convey confidence ** : When speaking, gestures are naturally upward, eye contact is maintained 3 back to the bridge of the nose, which can reduce pressure and highlight calm.
– ** Accept imperfection ** : If you accidentally spill a glass of water, self-deprecating “I’m famous for shaking my hands” is more impressive than a fluster apology.
conclusion
A date doesn’t have to be completed, but rather an opportunity for both parties to explore. Remember: Preparation is about performing your best self, not being someone you’re not. When you set up the stage with the right scene, communicate your will with the right image, and establish connection through sincere dialogue, the light of confidence will let you pass naturally. The next time you meet, you may find with a smile that the tension and anticipation of that moment have become the most important preface to the story of two people
